Why You Should Learn How To Say F*ck It (and it's not what you think) *originally published May 2017

I highly recommend that you learn how to say “Fuck it”.

This morning I woke up with those two words on my lips. Was it divine intervention? A product of recent circumstances? A demented, weird dream? I’m not sure, but that’s what I got.

Today begins the month of May. A year ago, this would be the last happy month for me in 2016. I embraced May, my birth month, with happy memories with great friends, marking “Another trip around the Sun”. June would bring a whole new slew of memories. An awful, painful journey would begin that would last until the end of 2016 – some of which still lingers today.

I celebrated life and birth in the month of May only to feel nothing but death and despair merely a month later.

I couldn’t see a way out for months and months. Fear had its bony grasp on my brain and stubbornly refused to let go.

There was no celebration, no joy – just heart breaking fear.

Literally heart breaking fear. While in surgery in July, I developed a condition called Takotsubo cardiomyopathy, or “Broken Heart Syndrome”. My heart was literally and spiritually broken.

Even in the depths of my fear, I knew right away this was a sign.

That I needed to heal my heart in more ways than one.

I set out to do just that. And though it wasn’t easy, because the mind wants to protect the heart from hurt, I embraced the fear and see everything completely different now.

And I am forever grateful for what I’ve learned – and continue to learn along my journey.

Here are just a few of my favorite lessons:

Keep your heart open. When you get hurt, and you will because that’s part of your growth, don’t close your heart to the world. Embrace the suck-iness of it all. Great things come when you stay open.

Breathe deeply.

Stay vulnerable – you will lose a lot of people along the way when you stay in this space because they can’t do the same, but that’s ok.

Stay true to who you are – don’t look to your left or your right. It doesn’t matter at all if you are not following the pack.

Allow yourself to experience it all. Enjoy the highs, learn and grow from the lows. Feel everything in between.

Kiss the boy.

Buy the plane ticket.

Belly laugh daily.

Eat the cupcake.

Swim with a dolphin named Tipper.

Let others know how you feel.

Stop …playing… small.

Watch for signs from the Universe– they are all around you.

Have no regrets.

Be spontaneous.

Love with all that you are.

Know that you are Love.

And love yourself first.

Walk away from situations that aren’t aligned with who you are.

Don’t worry about what others think of you – learn to say fuck it.

Be authentically, un-apologetically you.

Because that’s what the world needs – you just as you are.